doctors.

Today, I was walking and talking with a friend and started to get very upset about this particular topic. By very upset I mean irritated and kind of sad. The topic was.. well, it really wasn't a topic it just happened to be part of the conversation. Anyways, what we were talking about included the fact that it has been said (by apparently Dr.Phil, some books and other random, well-known people) that a person's future can be judged based on their past. This issue really makes me mad. Personally, I think this is the most ridiculous thing ever. I also think the people that say things such as this are very ignorant. Who are we to say how another person's life will be like solely based on what happened years ago? It is unfair to say that because someone, for example, has done drugs or cheated, that they will, in the future, fall back on those things. Why is it assumed that because someone has made a bad decision or used to have certain characteristics, that they will always be that way? People change. People always change. No matter what. Its inevitable. It may not always be in a good way, but people will change. Whichever way they change though, it makes their future different from their past. Say, for example, someone were to not have a job, is lazy and is an alcoholic. Does that mean that there future is going nowhere? Is Dr.Phil, who might I add has a "doctor" title, saying that this person will always and forever be lazy? Sorry, Dr.Phil but I think you are an idiot. These people who call themselves doctors with their research and their fancy ideas, they think they know everything. Wrong. No one can judge, or even has the right to think they can judge, someones future. Its absurd. I really hate how people think they know so much about something that is nearly impossible to know anything about. At least that is my opinion. You can't tell the future. Sure maybe the weather.. or.. I don't even know what else. Even the weather people are wrong. Who do you think you are saying how a person is going to end up based on things they have done? I don't believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing. People make mistakes, its a part of life. People choose lifestyles that may have not been the best choice but who are we to judge? What makes our choices right and theirs wrong? Even if they picked the "wrong" choice, according to society, what says that they can't turn that around and change their life? I really don't understand why they think someone's life can be based on their past. I'm not saying it doesn't affect their future, of course it does. However, that doesn't mean that assumptions can be made. We sit here and think we can judge others based on their decisions and choices. We can't. Decisions and choices aren't right or wrong, they're just different. If I choose not to go to school, that's my choice. If I choose to drink or do drugs or spend my life doing life-threatening things, that's my choice. If you choose to get into a career or have a family, that's YOUR choice. Neither one is right or wrong. How we choose to spend our time, and essentially our lives, is up to us. We're the one's that have to die when it's our time, not anyone else. So why do we think we are SO high and mighty looking down on other people based on what they have chose with THEIR life? Why? I don't know. It makes me so mad sitting here thinking about how ignorant we all are. Every single one of is. Ignorant. Also, when someone makes a "bad" decision, they can learn from it. Of course, whether they do or not is completely up to them, but they can. I just think it's so wrong to say that we can tell someone's future based on things that have happened in the past. The past is the past. It's done. You move on. That's what life is, a series of experiences and lessons. We learn from mistakes, or make them until we eventually learn. We all live life differently and more people need to accept that. We each are individuals. We are our own person. Anyways.. that might be it for now. I feel like I've exhausted my point. But I'm sure I'll write more later.

-Kelso.

addition.

Also, kind of related to this topic, happiness. I hear so many people complaining about their life and how they are unhappy. I'm sorry but I think that's your own fault. I mean it. This is how I see it. We all go through shitty things, some more than others, but how those things affect you is your own decision. Yes, I know it's hard to deal with the tough stuff. I've been there. But in the end, whether we are happy or not boils down to whether you CHOOSE to be happy. You can let those things you go through bring you down and ruin you, or you can use your experience as a lesson, make use of your suffering. Use it to build your character and make you a stronger person. It's all about your view on everything. That's it. Happiness doesn't come in or out of our lives. Its a decision. You have to do it for yourself. In the end, you're the one that provides your own happiness. Not anyone or anything else. People may make you happy, yes, but how you choose to react to people and situations is all you. My point is, stop wallowing in your own pity and complaining about how shitty everything is. Change it. You have the power to make it different. You just have to change your view. Say to yourself "you know what, I deserve better than this. I don't need to be miserable". Think of all the ways whatever it is that you're going through has helped you grow, made you see things differently, or made you appreciate the little things. That's all there is to it. A choice. You just have to make the decision.

let go.

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We attach ourselves to things that we have accumulated over the years. Some of them might have some practical value. Others we just have attached ourselves sentimentally to over time. Some others are just clutter.

Our mental life follows the same fate. We carry with us a lot of things in our heads along the years – Our life story, emotional attachments, beliefs and other things which can linger in our minds for many years.

Some of them are useless ideas that drag us down considerably. Some are emotional debris from difficult moments in our past. Some are just beliefs which we have attached ourselves to for no apparent justifiable reason. Some others are just self-destructive habits and fears

1. Let go of attachments: According to Buddhist Philosophy, attachment is one of the roots of all suffering. I can’t agree more. We attach ourselves to all sorts of things even the most self-slapping stupid notions in the universe. Are you attached to something? How much are you attached? Is it keeping you back from something? Is it making you suffer? Look at it straight through – break the illusion. Know that every attachment can be detached.

2. Let go of guilt: Guilt has absolutely no function whatsoever. Think about it – what could guilt possibly resolve? It just holds you imprisoned to self-mortification and sorrow.

3. Let go of Negative thinking: Pessimistic thoughts and negative attitudes keep you locked in a dark aura that permeates in everything you do. It’s a dangerous line to follow. Know that thoughts influence the world around us. Enough said

4. Let go of self-criticism: Many times we are our biggest pain in the neck. We criticize ourselves with the best of intentions but then go over the acceptable limit. Criticism then turns to disempowering messages. Let go of it and be kind and gentle to yourself.

5. Let go of prejudice: Prejudice keeps you bitter and resentful. It restricts your opportunities to connect meaningfully with others.

6. Let go of compulsive thinking: Do you keep on doing something just because you feel you have to do it without any apparent reason? It’s time to honestly reflect on its usefulness and its side-effects.

7. Let go of the need for others’ approval: We often tend to seek approval by others. This is an attention-seeking behaviour and one which threatens our self-confidence and authenticity.

8. Let go of limiting beliefs: Most of our limits are self-imposed. Life doesn’t have defined limits. Our beliefs do. Learn to identify those beliefs which narrow down your possibilities for action and let go of them.

9. Let go of grudges: Let me put it this way – grudges are bad for your heart. Keep them long enough or numerous enough and your health will eventually suffer. Research is showing the relationship between heart disease and emotions such as anger and grudges.

10. Let go of the “I’ll do it tomorrow” attitude: This is a delaying tactic of your subconscious saboteur trying to keep you from accomplishing important tasks. Try to be aware of it when you think it and consciously push yourself to do at least the first part of it. Naturally you will then continue the whole task because the hard part is only the beginning.

11. Let go of anxious thoughts: These are born out of our fear of the unknown and uncertainty about the future. The thought that something unpleasant may happen is only an unreal thought we have created ourselves. Ask yourself: “Is this thought based on real evidence?”

12. Let go of past heartbreaks: A heartbreak can take quite a long time to heal. Your heart is locked as your mind keeps on hovering over the same thought. The thing to realize is that in heartbreaks it is not the loss that make you suffer but the idea you create in your heads about that loss.

13. Let go of bad memories: Sometimes we remember unpleasant things that stir up some sad feelings in us. Bad memories make you relive those sad moments in the present. Keep them where they are – in the past.

14. Let go of useless things: We also attach ourselves to things of all sort. Sometimes we clutter our life with useless objects. Let go of them and simplify your working and living environment.

15. Let go of bad company: If there are people around you that are insincere, harbour envy, are highly pessimistic or disempowering, keep away from them.

16. Let go of the idea that you are a product of your past: One very common mistake we fall into is the belief that we are determined by our past experiences. This limits our view on future possibilities since we are stuck in believing that the future can only be more of the same as our past.

17. Let go of identifying yourself with your job/role: This is one of the risks of modern day life. Since roles are always becoming more specialized we think that we are part of our roles. This makes us lose perspective of our true nature.

18. Let go of counterproductive habits: These are the repetitive patterns of behavior that obstruct or distract you from constructive and productive behavior. They can be anything from watching too much TV and overeating to self-destructive behavior such as drug abuse.

19. Let go of taking things too personally: Very often we are disturbed emotionally because we interpret people’s words and actions from a very subjective perspective. When we take things personally we get irritated, hurt and disappointed. When you look at life from a more detached and objective point of view, we stay emotionally balanced and focused on our priorities.

20. Let go of the ticking clock: Time is one of our biggest sources of stress. Well, not time really but our perception of it. Sometimes we are enslaved by the concept of time even in our moments of leisure. This has devoured a lot of our genuine freedom and space. Learning to spend moments without the constant awareness of time can be liberating and finally productive.