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Today, I was walking and talking with a friend and started to get very upset about this particular topic. By very upset I mean irritated and kind of sad. The topic was.. well, it really wasn't a topic it just happened to be part of the conversation. Anyways, what we were talking about included the fact that it has been said (by apparently Dr.Phil, some books and other random, well-known people) that a person's future can be judged based on their past. This issue really makes me mad. Personally, I think this is the most ridiculous thing ever. I also think the people that say things such as this are very ignorant. Who are we to say how another person's life will be like solely based on what happened years ago? It is unfair to say that because someone, for example, has done drugs or cheated, that they will, in the future, fall back on those things. Why is it assumed that because someone has made a bad decision or used to have certain characteristics, that they will always be that way? People change. People always change. No matter what. Its inevitable. It may not always be in a good way, but people will change. Whichever way they change though, it makes their future different from their past. Say, for example, someone were to not have a job, is lazy and is an alcoholic. Does that mean that there future is going nowhere? Is Dr.Phil, who might I add has a "doctor" title, saying that this person will always and forever be lazy? Sorry, Dr.Phil but I think you are an idiot. These people who call themselves doctors with their research and their fancy ideas, they think they know everything. Wrong. No one can judge, or even has the right to think they can judge, someones future. Its absurd. I really hate how people think they know so much about something that is nearly impossible to know anything about. At least that is my opinion. You can't tell the future. Sure maybe the weather.. or.. I don't even know what else. Even the weather people are wrong. Who do you think you are saying how a person is going to end up based on things they have done? I don't believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing. People make mistakes, its a part of life. People choose lifestyles that may have not been the best choice but who are we to judge? What makes our choices right and theirs wrong? Even if they picked the "wrong" choice, according to society, what says that they can't turn that around and change their life? I really don't understand why they think someone's life can be based on their past. I'm not saying it doesn't affect their future, of course it does. However, that doesn't mean that assumptions can be made. We sit here and think we can judge others based on their decisions and choices. We can't. Decisions and choices aren't right or wrong, they're just different. If I choose not to go to school, that's my choice. If I choose to drink or do drugs or spend my life doing life-threatening things, that's my choice. If you choose to get into a career or have a family, that's YOUR choice. Neither one is right or wrong. How we choose to spend our time, and essentially our lives, is up to us. We're the one's that have to die when it's our time, not anyone else. So why do we think we are SO high and mighty looking down on other people based on what they have chose with THEIR life? Why? I don't know. It makes me so mad sitting here thinking about how ignorant we all are. Every single one of is. Ignorant. Also, when someone makes a "bad" decision, they can learn from it. Of course, whether they do or not is completely up to them, but they can. I just think it's so wrong to say that we can tell someone's future based on things that have happened in the past. The past is the past. It's done. You move on. That's what life is, a series of experiences and lessons. We learn from mistakes, or make them until we eventually learn. We all live life differently and more people need to accept that. We each are individuals. We are our own person. Anyways.. that might be it for now. I feel like I've exhausted my point. But I'm sure I'll write more later.

-Kelso.

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Also, kind of related to this topic, happiness. I hear so many people complaining about their life and how they are unhappy. I'm sorry but I think that's your own fault. I mean it. This is how I see it. We all go through shitty things, some more than others, but how those things affect you is your own decision. Yes, I know it's hard to deal with the tough stuff. I've been there. But in the end, whether we are happy or not boils down to whether you CHOOSE to be happy. You can let those things you go through bring you down and ruin you, or you can use your experience as a lesson, make use of your suffering. Use it to build your character and make you a stronger person. It's all about your view on everything. That's it. Happiness doesn't come in or out of our lives. Its a decision. You have to do it for yourself. In the end, you're the one that provides your own happiness. Not anyone or anything else. People may make you happy, yes, but how you choose to react to people and situations is all you. My point is, stop wallowing in your own pity and complaining about how shitty everything is. Change it. You have the power to make it different. You just have to change your view. Say to yourself "you know what, I deserve better than this. I don't need to be miserable". Think of all the ways whatever it is that you're going through has helped you grow, made you see things differently, or made you appreciate the little things. That's all there is to it. A choice. You just have to make the decision.